“80后”的婚姻真的会死在房子上吗？中国青年报社会调查中心对2429人(79.5％的人为“80后”，69.1％的人没有自己的房子)进行的一项调查显示，74.2％的人表示自己身边的“80后”夫妻因为房子问题产生矛盾的人较多。

　　婚房应由谁买单

　　在山东省济南市某贸易公司工作的刘雷，和女友小琳相恋十年，大学时期两地相思，找工作时历尽种种艰辛终于留在了同一个城市。“我本想十年的等待终于可以画上圆满句号了，但是小琳提出结婚必须要有房子，以我的家庭条件和现在的收入，在市区买房太不现实了，就拒绝了她的要求。”没想到仅仅半个月后，小琳就和别人结婚了，那个人准备了一套一百多平方米的房子。“后来我才知道小琳一直在我和那个人之间犹豫，十年的情感本使我略胜一筹，但是就因为房子，我十年等待顷刻变得毫无意义。现在别人一提到房子我就觉得憋屈，疼！”“我接触的‘80后’因为房子问题离婚的确实比较多，但更多的是因为没有房子而不结婚的。在他们看来，房子是婚姻必需品，甚至成了首要因素。”绝对100婚恋网创始人、首席婚恋心理学专家茱莉说。

　　本次调查显示，73.2％的人认为房子是婚姻必需品

　　“80后”女生孟菲菲说：“我们找朋友时看重房子等因素，也是出于对家庭、对孩子的长久考虑，但这并不代表我们不重感情，我们要求有物质保障这没有错。”小米和女友文静看了3个月的房子，最近终于看到了满意的户型和配套，但在房款问题上两人产生了分歧，文静认为小米至少应独自负担首付，之后两人一起承担，而小米则认为首付就应双方共同承担，吵来吵去没有结果，他们的购房计划也不得不暂时搁置。

　　调查中，66.3％的人选择双方共同负担，20.8％的人认为买房就是男方的事，12.6％的人表示只要感情好，谁买房无所谓，仅有0.3％的人认为买房是女方的事。

　　上海政法学院女性研究中心主任陈晓敏表示，现在“80后”仅仅依靠男女双方的力量去买房基本上不可能，大部分是两个家庭拿出积蓄为年轻人买房，“有一句话是说‘80后’的，不怕某一方买不起房子，就怕两个都买不起房子的人走到一起。”“房子由谁来买并不重要，重要的是双方在婚前做好协商，可以做好婚前公证，不应局限于房子就是男方的事这样的思维上，有能力的一方就多出一份力，毕竟日子是两人一起过，只要两人能过得幸福，谁来买单都可以。通过协商和公证只是为婚姻减少一些可能出现的矛盾。”资深婚恋咨询专家、中国婚姻研究会成员周小鹏说。

　　如果结婚时没有住房，35.6％的人选择“不结婚”

　　如果结婚时没有住房又买不起怎么办？调查中，48.0％的人选择租房，11.4％的人会和父母一起住，5.1％的人住单位宿舍，多达35.6％的人毅然选择“不结婚”。38.9％的人表示自己身边的“80后”因为没房不结婚的人非常多，35.4％的人表示“比较多”。

　　茱莉认为，“80后”因为没有房子不结婚很正常，“这有两方面原因，其一，很多年轻人婚前就生活在一起了，等有了一定物质基础再买房结婚是比较的现实选择。其二，很多年轻人将房子等物质需求作为婚姻的重要指标，他们的婚姻更趋现实和物质了。

　　电影《甲方乙方》里有段经典对白。刘蓓说：“没有爱情的婚姻是不幸福的。”葛优回答：“没有房子的婚姻才是不幸福的。”调查显示，52.8％的人认为“80后”夫妻会因为没有房子不幸福，31.0％的人表示“不好说”，仅16.2％的人认为“80后”不会因为没有房子而感到不幸福。

　　“房子仅仅是婚姻的一部分，婚姻的幸福与否如果由是否有房子来决定，那将是婚姻最大的不幸。”陈晓敏说，婚姻是一个漫长的旅途，受到多方面因素的影响，其中最重要的就是两个人基于共同价值观基础上的情投意合，这才是保证婚姻幸福的重要指数。

　　茱莉认为，房子有时仅是导火索，考验的是两人的相容度。“80后”多为独生子女，分享的概念较少，然而只有相容才能成就幸福婚姻。在构成婚姻幸福的36个维度上，最为关键的几个维度就是两人的人生观、价值观、责任感、沟通方式、情绪稳定性和兴趣爱好。

　　李海涛和张国萍都供职于北京一家企业，月收入加起来只有5000元，结婚后他们租了一套60多平方米的房子，然后将大卧室出租，他们选择住在十几平方米的小卧室。租了大卧室的王晓亮刚开始有很多不理解的地方：“为什么两个人要住小屋？我请他们出去吃饭他们都婉言谢绝，周末他们基本上也不出去玩，他们一般都是请朋友到家里来自己动手做饭。后来有一天，他们做了一顿丰盛的晚饭邀我一起吃，告诉我房子装修好了要搬家了，我才知道，他们俩每个月的生活费只有1700多元，其余都省下来供房。像他们夫妻俩一起奔着一个目标奋斗，哪怕当下的路再难走，也是一种幸福。”

,当然是房子无敌了..

想想自己收入..

再看看房价.....那个汗呀!!      

是的，80后都死在房子上了，这就是中国的和谐呀

我们都是死在了钱的身上了，凡事一提到钱就很容易起争执，现在的社会真的是太现实了！

80后的没房子可以租，60后70后的连房子都没有租一样活了过来。

80后是饱受压力的一代，惨惨惨！

没房子就没老婆啊，有房子了要去找个什么样子的呢？

Father Frost

In a far-away country, somewhere in Russia, there lived a stepmother who had a stepdaughter and also a daughter of her own. Her own daughter was dear to her, and always whatever she did the mother was the first to praise her, to pet her; but there was but little praise for the stepdaughter; although good and kind, she had no other reward than reproach. What on earth could have been done? The wind blows, but stops blowing at times; the wicked woman never knows how to stop her wickedness. One bright cold day the stepmother said to her husband:
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"Now, old man, I want you to take your daughter away from my eyes, away from my ears. You shall not take her to your people into a warm hut. You shall take her into the wide, wide fields to the crackling frost."

The old father grew sad, began even to weep, but nevertheless helped the young girl into the sleigh. He wished to cover her with a sheepskin in order to protect her from the cold; however, he did not do it. He was afraid; his wife was watching them out of the window. And so he went with his lovely daughter into the wide, wide fields; drove her nearly to the woods, left her there alone, and speedily drove away--he was a good man and did not care to see his daughter's death. Following continue. wow gold,

Alone, quite alone, remained the sweet girl. Broken-hearted and terror-stricken she repeated fervently all the prayers she knew.

Father Frost, the almighty sovereign at that place, clad in furs, with a long, long, white beard and a shining crown on his white head, approached nearer and nearer, looked at this beautiful guest of his and asked:

"Dost you know me?--me, the red-nosed Frost?"

"Be welcome, Father Frost," answered gently the young girl. "I hope our heavenly Lord sent you for my sinful soul."

"Are you comfortable, sweet child?" again asked the Frost. He was exceedingly pleased with her looks and mild manners.wedding dress,

"Indeed I am," answered the girl, almost out of breath from cold.

And the Frost, cheerful and bright, kept crackling in the branches until the air became icy, but the good-natured girl kept repeating:

"I am very comfortable, dear Father Frost."

But the Frost, however, knew all about the weakness of human beings; he knew very well that few of them are really good and kind; but he knew no one of them even could struggle too long against the power of Frost, the king of winter. The kindness of the gentle girl charmed old Frost so much that he made the decision to treat her differently from others, and gave her a large heavy trunk filled with many beautiful, beautiful things. He gave her a rich cloak lined with precious furs; he gave her silk quilts--light like feathers and warm as a mother's lap. What a rich girl she became and how many magnificent garments she received! And besides all, old Frost gave her a blue dress ornamented with silver and pearls. This site is on the Crushers：crusher。
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When the young girl put it on she became such a beautiful maiden that even the sun smiled at her.

The stepmother was in the kitchen busy baking pancakes for the meal which it is the custom to give to the priests and friends after the usual service for the dead.

"Now, old man," said the wife to the husband, "go down to the wide fields and bring the body of thy daughter; we will bury her."

The old man went off. And the little dog in the corner wagged his tail and said:

"Bow-wow! bow-wow! the old man's daughter is on her way home, beautiful and happy as never before, and the old woman's daughter is wicked as ever before."
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"Keep still, stupid beast!" shouted the stepmother, and struck the little dog. Went to eat, while repeat.

"Here, take this pancake, eat it and say, 'The old woman's daughter will be married soon and the old man's daughter shall be buried soon.'"

The dog ate the pancake and began anew:

"Bow-wow! bow-wow! the old man's daughter is coming home wealthy and happy as never before, and the old woman's daughter is somewhere around as homely and wicked as ever before."
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The old woman was furious at the dog, but in spite of pancakes and whipping, the dog repeated the same words over and over again.

Father Frost

都死在现实上了

社会和谐呀

男同胞死在了 房子 车子 票子上了

女同胞都死在 面子上了

倒霉的房改

倒霉的拉动内需

共产党还是垮台的好

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